The Fears Before, During, & Following Your Divorce
Feb 23 2018 - Posted by Chris Lincoln of The Lincoln Law Firm, PLLC, in Assets, Divorce, Parenting & Custody Agreements, Tagged in Assets, Divorce, Parenting & Custody
Often divorce is not just cut and dry. Between dividing up assets & debts and raising children between two households, we are still humans with human emotions. It is normal to fear divorce along with the uncertainty of your future. These fears are normal.
Where will you live?
How will you pay your bills?
How will you tell the kids and your friends and family?
Will you be alone forever?
Are you making the right choice?
Will your children be hurt by the process?
Will you ever stop feeling guilt and sadness?
The fears that arise before and during divorce are normal. We as humans are fearful of change in any situation, and what situation is more frightening than to change life as you know it? Some fears are completely founded. During a divorce you will need to worry about your financial future. If you have children, it is your responsibility to co-parent with the other parent and create a parenting plan that is in the best interest of your children.
The solution to conquering the fears and emotions which occur with a divorce are to understand, you cannot know what will happen next. Worry about what is truly important and relinquish control of minor issues. Meet with a divorce attorney (or two). You need a trustworthy advocate. Having an attorney who you trust and understands your goals will help reduce some of the fear.
Do not be afraid to meet with a therapist or counselor. While they may not offer legal advice, they are equipped to help you deal with the resentment, depression, sadness, and general loneliness that can accumulate during the divorce process.
Source: Managing Fears During Divorce by Harry L. Munsinger, J.D., Ph.D.